Sometimes for a guy, the signals a girl sends out can be confusing. Does she like me? Are we just friends? I suppose every guy has been in a scenario like this. Today we are looking at some proven signals that girls send out. So once and for all you will know how to tell if a girl likes you.
It’s all about stance
When this girl is talking to you, take not of how open her body language is. If she has her torso pointed towards you, she is confident talking to you. A closed body position which includes crossed legs or arms may indicate that she is shy or perhaps nervous. So this isn’t always a bad thing.
If you are both sitting down, and her feet are pointing towards you, this is a good sign that she likes you and wants to get closer.
How to tell if a girl likes you with hugs
Does she give you random hugs? If you notice she tends to hug you more than other people, this can be a sure sign that she is in to you.
This is very important, but also potentially confusing. A lot of signalling happens through eye contact. Try not to over analyse it, but instead focus on how it makes you feel. Often these signals can be an unconscious communication between two people. It is worth paying attention to this afterwards. Think back to the conversation you had with her. Did any of this happen:
- If she maintains eye contact for a few seconds this is a good sign.
- On the other hand if she glances down the moment you make eye contact it can also be a signal of attraction.
- If she is nervous, she may look away, and does not necessarily mean she doesn’t like you.
A couple of more concrete signs:
- Dilation of pupils indicated attraction, however this may be hard to spot.
- If you find she is looking at you when you glanced at her, this may mean she is interested in you.
Touch and closeness
Often when a girl is flirting with you, she’ll touch you lightly. When she does this, she is gauging how responsive you are to her. If you notice she brushes by you, or places her hand on you, this may be a sure sign that she is in to you.
However, just like guys, not all girls are comfortable or confident to reach out and touch a guy she likes. Again, this is a confusing thing you will have to navigate with intuition and experience. Just because she doesn’t touch you, doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you. Perhaps, if you are getting other signals, you can try breaking this touch barrier yourself and see how she responds.
She may also make other small friendly gestures, such as lightly punching your arm. This is a way for her to get close to you, without being too obvious to others.
Context is crucial
For example if you are having an intense or interesting debate with a girl, and she maintains eye contact, this does not necessarily mean she likes you – it could be her conversational style.
Again, a touch from a girl to say your friend is looking for you, doesn’t mean she is flirting – just trying to help!
Use your brain in these scenarios. Again, don’t over analyse, but just think about the impression the action left.
Mirroring your moves
This one can be easy to spot once you are aware of it. It is also usually a telling sign. When you are talking to her one on one, rest your chin on your hand, then sit back in your chair. Watch to see if she unconsciously follows your body language a few seconds later.
Other suggestive signs.
When a girl is talking to you and touches her neck, lips or collarbone lightly this is a flirtatious sign. Whenever she does this how does it make you feel? She is signalling that she likes you. She may even apply lipstick in front of you.
Playing with her hair.
When a girl wants to be really flirty she will gently twirl her hair in her hands. Watch out for this, it is a sign you shouldn’t miss.
How to tell if a girl likes you by her smile
If she has an open and warm inviting smile this is usually a good sign. Also notice if she laughs at your jokes. If an unfunny joke has her in stitches chances are you are in there.
Watch how her friends react
When she talks to you, do her friends glance over and smile or giggle? Sometimes watching the way her friends react can be a tell tale giveaway and is far more convincing than any signals she might be sending you. This is one of the surest ways how to tell if a girl likes you.
Lots of girls will tell their friends about their crush. Often they are in the know, and by being less than subtle about this, they give the whole game away! Often they are doing this to encourage a relationship they want to see happening for their friend.
Look out for gentle, but friendly teasing.
Gentle teasing is a sure sign of flirting, and basically means that she really likes you. Again, if you notice this, it means you have a good chance with her.
But pay attention to how she acts around others.
All of the above ways are a great tips for how to tell if a girl likes you. However, watch out that she doesn’t just flirt with everyone. Some girls are just more naturally like this in their personality. It’s harmless and probably isn’t intended to lead anyone one. Just watch to see if she pays special attention to you over others.
I’ll admit, the game of human attraction and signalling is a grey area. With experience, you begin to see the signs more easily. Then the difficult thing once you find out that she likes you, is how are you going to react to that? My advise is to play it cool – but show her some subtle hints to show your interest too. Arrange a date perhaps, and take it from there. Good luck! And don’t wait around when she shows you she likes you. Grab that chance!